One of my oldest, closest friends is a UA 73 CA. Before my first j/s, he told me "remember, no one wants you up there", and that stuck with me. I keep my head down and my mouth shut unless I'm spoken to. Unless I just got off of work, I show up for the j/s looking like I'm going in front of a hiring committee full of double-breasted senior Delta captains. If there's a seat in the back, I always take it, even if it's 34B in between a morbidly obese person and a screaming baby. It sucks, and I'd actually prefer the j/s (so long as it's only the middle j/s on a 73 - i'd never take the one behind a CA) but I also just want to get to where I need to be. That said...
I've met some great guys while jumpseating. We trade contact information. We keep in touch. I learn from watching different crews on different equipment at different carriers. I personally enjoy it. I often take notes. I see things they do and think about implementing them into my practices, so long as it works with my job. I always let them know I appreciate the ride. Hell, I had a UA 75 CA on IOE with 2 LCPs in the cockpit. They were all great. At the end, I even told him I wouldn't have let me in there with everything he had going on, but they were all very gracious.
We all work hard and we all worked hard to get where we are now. Some of us have better gigs than others and sometimes we forget when it sucked for us. But, at the end of the day, we all just want to work when we have to work and go home when we can go home. I know for me, the courtesy is always appreciated. I've never been made to feel unwelcomed - except by one of my best friends - and I hope I don't ever make anyone feel unwelcomed. Except maybe my friend.