Imagine thinking that your coworker who’s trying to buy you a beverage or some crappy layover dinner is trying to control you… what a bizarre way to think, then again I forget from time to time I’m a Delta pilot.

are we talking about dating here?

Imagine getting put off that someone doesn't want you to buy them drinks or meals and/or refusing to let someone return the favor if the original offer was accepted.

Soft, but respectful, disagree here. It’s not a co-equal partnership. Sorry, it’s just not. Especially with the more historic slope of upgrades.

I’m not going to refuse your return gesture, though I will put up a tacit defense at least once. 😉. Just like my kids occasionally wanting to pick up dinner. I appreciate they are trying to demonstrate their ability to ‘adult’. But it’s not equal. I won’t allow a 50/50 split over time when my ability to pay is so much greater. But I fully agree it would be rude for them not to be allowed to sometimes. Maybe that will change someday, when I’m old and they are changing my diaper… 😂

Holy crap, the things people worry about. I just learned that there is a group of people that think it's disrespectful to ask "so what do you do" (for work), in conversation when meeting someone new. I just see it as a nice conversation starter that usually leads to family, hobbies, etc... All it showed me is that people get worked up over the dumbest stuff. If a Captain offers to buy, take them up on it, they're not doing it to extract anything. If the FO offers a coffee, take them up on it as well. It all works itself out in the end and it's just beyond ridiculous to worry about these things. I guess you can add this to the list of reasons I much prefer to just do turns and never overnight lol.

Post written after a good friend/squadron mate/Deltoid/APC dweller showed up to my house unannounced with a six pack that has now been downed. He's even an FO, so I guess I shouldn't have let him buy the beers we drank. :D

Sometimes it boggles my mind the things people think about. I always insist on buying but I’ll relent if I get some firm pushback. Maybe I’m pulling some unconscious Freudian powerplay lmao.

I see it as tribute to the airline gods who saw fit to put me in a specific seat 10+ years earlier than I had envisioned when starting the career.

For the record, I'm not offended people offer to buy. I just don't want you to on most occasions. As I said, buying the occasional drink is fine. It's a nice gesture. But please don't make it awkward when I politely refuse

I would also add don’t make it awkward if the other pilot would rather do their own thing either.

I remember flying with a CA when I was new who was legitimately ****ed off after I politely declined going out for a drink on a 10 hour layover.

Oh man. I had a guy who said he wanted to go get drinks after we landed during the first leg of the trip. It was a mess of a day with hours of delays, we didn't get to the hotel until after midnight but even with a later show the next day, I was whooped. After check in, he's like, "you want to meet down here in like 10?" I'm like, dude, I'm exhausted. I think I'm just going to call it. He lifted up his phone, closed his maps app, and just said, "whatever."

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