IF it's a fairly amicable split, you might want to consider a divorce mediator. Saves you a crap-ton of money and grief.

If in memphis look for a lawyer named D. Pounders.

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Sorry to hear about this but.....

The good, no kids.

The bad, you're a WB Capt and she hasn't worked in 10 yrs.

If in MEM, I'd seek some advice from other Memphians; the big D attorney's in that town can smell blood in the water and ALL OF THEM have the same recipe for "FedEx wide body Capt." To them, it's easier than making pancakes.

Outside of MEM, YMMV....

It's hell bro but you get through it...

Its the "screwing you get for the screwing you got".

Get ready to die miserable & broke !!

I'd be interested in knowing exactly what a "fairly amicable split" is, and in the whole history of the world, has there been more than one or two of them? Probably easier finding a unicorn at the Memphis zoo.

If you know Pat R, who was a widebody Captain, you might give him a call. I believe he underwent two or three of those divorce thingies.

Good luck with however you decide to proceed. You're going to need it.

Depends on the state and of course the judge.

some places the rough # for ALimony is 1/3 of the difference in gross for 1/3 the length of the marriage.

For example, if you make (gross) 21K per month and she does not work, then you would pay her 7K per month.

Some states limit the amount.

Keep in mind she will pay taxes on alimony and it is deductible for you.

Some states pay alimony for life after so many years(e.g. 20+) of marriage, but others limit it until "rehabilitation" (she is back in the job market.) Also depends on her education, job skills, ability to earn.

I heard a rumor that you are exempt from paying alimony if you are on medical disability, not sure if that is true.

Don't fight over the small stuff. Your health and well being are worth more than any $$$.

No matter how it ends, you will both feel like you got screwed.

Only the lawyers will feel good.

See if she is willing to do mediation or a collaborative divorce.

Conduct yourself in a professional manner when dealing with her. An accusation of domestic violence is a possible career killer

Good luck and remember there is life after divorce.

If there are no kids, it makes things much easier. As long as neither party is going to be an a-hole and there isn't any crazy reason for the divorce (violence, etc.), it CAN be done. Also, she will probably be told she has to return to work in some capacity. The only women who seem to get a pass are those who have young children.

Mediation is fair and doesn't make the 2 lawyers the only winners in the case.

Just do your homework. Understand the divorce laws of your state and the case law. Be patient, the legal system is very, very, very slow. With your homework have a firm idea of your bottom line. Don’t be shy about telling your opposition to go F themselves. Good luck! It will be better next time.

Alimony will not be deductible in the new House Tax Bill.