Girlfriends & Relationships
03-07-2014, 07:48 AM
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Girlfriends & Relationships
I was torn on whether this topic merited Hangar Talk or Pilot Health.. but I suppose either will do.
How does everyone deal with a pilot lifestyle and their (monogamous) relationships?
My girlfriend is the most amazing girl when I'm home and we're together... but as soon as I hit the road she turns into this anxious, untrusting, paranoid monster type person. I get texts from her every 10 seconds... Have you landed yet? Why didn't you text me? What are you doing? Who are you with? What are you busy doing? What are you doing later? Where are you eating? What are you eating? just these absolutely obnoxious questions that I don't always have the time to answer... and then she says I'm "blowing her off".
Does anyone else have this problem of being "smothered" on the road? How do you deal with it?
How does everyone deal with a pilot lifestyle and their (monogamous) relationships?
My girlfriend is the most amazing girl when I'm home and we're together... but as soon as I hit the road she turns into this anxious, untrusting, paranoid monster type person. I get texts from her every 10 seconds... Have you landed yet? Why didn't you text me? What are you doing? Who are you with? What are you busy doing? What are you doing later? Where are you eating? What are you eating? just these absolutely obnoxious questions that I don't always have the time to answer... and then she says I'm "blowing her off".
Does anyone else have this problem of being "smothered" on the road? How do you deal with it?
03-07-2014, 07:56 AM
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Originally Posted by oldschool
You spend half your life on the road, so I guess she is only "amazing" half the time. Something you need to think about if you plan to go any further with her.
03-07-2014, 08:44 AM
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I have a feeling mcart knows the answer to his question but needs some external validation, which is perfectly normal. Ultimately there is no perfect relationship, and there are many different dynamics that can occur. The pilot lifestyle is tough on relationships for sure, but it's not some insurmountable thing. If your relationship is truly healthy there should be no place for jealousy. If you haven't given her any reason to be paranoid and jealous then it's something she needs to work on herself and probably not something you can fix.
Incidentally I've come to hate text messages as a form of communication inside a relationship. They are fine for occasional use and coordination but the best plan is to make plans to have occasional phone/skype time at whatever interval works for you both, once a day or so.
Incidentally I've come to hate text messages as a form of communication inside a relationship. They are fine for occasional use and coordination but the best plan is to make plans to have occasional phone/skype time at whatever interval works for you both, once a day or so.
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