I agree. I've flown with more than my share of fighter/attack bubbas. Almost all were above average sticks and great guys to work with. Perhaps it was because we had military service in common, but I like to think my experience with them was pretty much universal.
Just because you've "lucked" into one of the marginal personalities doesn't make the whole group bad. Military or civilian background both have their Debbie Downers. Grit you teeth, grin and bear it. Next month is right around the corner.