Aviation Induced Divorce Syndrome Questions
03-25-2022, 09:40 AM
#91
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Originally Posted by Californyia
Is this really a thing? I obtained my commercial pilot license on March 2 and my husband informed me promptly that he is divorcing me as a result. Plain and simple. "You took the check ride, I'm done. See ya."
And we only just got married! Any hope for me or is this truly the lot of the professional pilot? I can't go home because Hubby doesn't want me around so I'm homeless living in FBOs and flying a 172 around the country.
I supported him when he was in full-time pilot training -- financially and otherwise, but he apparently didn't like me visiting him in Mesa, AZ because I flew the plane to get there. He eventually quit the program at CAE and came home to gradually return to engineering. Apparently, his rule about "Don't get further ahead of me in ratings or else" was for real. He tolerated me getting my instrument rating after considerable pleading, but once he knew about the commercial check ride, that was it. I hope to return home eventually and resume a life together, but he says absolutely no chance. I chose to go ahead with the commercial check ride, so the marriage is over, according to him. No turning back, he says. I took the ride; I suffer the consequences.
Is this what is meant by AIDS? The examples in other posts seem to be related to male pilots and their indiscretions. Has this ever happened to a female pilot whose husband cannot accept her succeeding beyond him in aviation goals? Any hope for my marriage?
And we only just got married! Any hope for me or is this truly the lot of the professional pilot? I can't go home because Hubby doesn't want me around so I'm homeless living in FBOs and flying a 172 around the country.
I supported him when he was in full-time pilot training -- financially and otherwise, but he apparently didn't like me visiting him in Mesa, AZ because I flew the plane to get there. He eventually quit the program at CAE and came home to gradually return to engineering. Apparently, his rule about "Don't get further ahead of me in ratings or else" was for real. He tolerated me getting my instrument rating after considerable pleading, but once he knew about the commercial check ride, that was it. I hope to return home eventually and resume a life together, but he says absolutely no chance. I chose to go ahead with the commercial check ride, so the marriage is over, according to him. No turning back, he says. I took the ride; I suffer the consequences.
Is this what is meant by AIDS? The examples in other posts seem to be related to male pilots and their indiscretions. Has this ever happened to a female pilot whose husband cannot accept her succeeding beyond him in aviation goals? Any hope for my marriage?
03-25-2022, 10:22 AM
#92
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Originally Posted by flybub
Um, wow. I would not call that AIDS. I won't get into relationship advice or what you should do, but I'd say there are some serious red flags there.
This is not Aviation Induced Divorce Syndrome, this is A*****e Induced Divorce Syndrome. He is going to be this way whether you fly a plane or not. You’re far better off getting out now. It doesn’t matter what you do, that marriage won’t last and it nothing to do with your profession.
File the paperwork and get him out of your life. Learn from the experience, move on in your life, and vet the next one better.
If this is a troll post - you win the internet today.
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03-25-2022, 02:16 PM
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Occasionally, people will mention their spouses not supporting flight training.
Typically this is because they’re iffy about taking out 6 figures worth of debt. Or nervous about a career with an unusual schedule. Those things are reasonable.
You have an insecure husband who is controlling and just doesn’t want you to have a more advanced rating then him. That is insane.
The good news is your next husband will almost certainly be better, because it really doesn’t get much worse then that.
Typically this is because they’re iffy about taking out 6 figures worth of debt. Or nervous about a career with an unusual schedule. Those things are reasonable.
You have an insecure husband who is controlling and just doesn’t want you to have a more advanced rating then him. That is insane.
The good news is your next husband will almost certainly be better, because it really doesn’t get much worse then that.
03-26-2022, 03:06 AM
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Originally Posted by DontLookDown
Occasionally, people will mention their spouses not supporting flight training.
Typically this is because they’re iffy about taking out 6 figures worth of debt. Or nervous about a career with an unusual schedule. Those things are reasonable.
You have an insecure husband who is controlling and just doesn’t want you to have a more advanced rating then him. That is insane.
The good news is your next husband will almost certainly be better, because it really doesn’t get much worse then that.
Typically this is because they’re iffy about taking out 6 figures worth of debt. Or nervous about a career with an unusual schedule. Those things are reasonable.
You have an insecure husband who is controlling and just doesn’t want you to have a more advanced rating then him. That is insane.
The good news is your next husband will almost certainly be better, because it really doesn’t get much worse then that.
03-27-2022, 09:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Californyia
Is this really a thing? I obtained my commercial pilot license on March 2 and my husband informed me promptly that he is divorcing me as a result. Plain and simple. "You took the check ride, I'm done. See ya."
And we only just got married! Any hope for me or is this truly the lot of the professional pilot? I can't go home because Hubby doesn't want me around so I'm homeless living in FBOs and flying a 172 around the country.
I supported him when he was in full-time pilot training -- financially and otherwise, but he apparently didn't like me visiting him in Mesa, AZ because I flew the plane to get there. He eventually quit the program at CAE and came home to gradually return to engineering. Apparently, his rule about "Don't get further ahead of me in ratings or else" was for real. He tolerated me getting my instrument rating after considerable pleading, but once he knew about the commercial check ride, that was it. I hope to return home eventually and resume a life together, but he says absolutely no chance. I chose to go ahead with the commercial check ride, so the marriage is over, according to him. No turning back, he says. I took the ride; I suffer the consequences.
Is this what is meant by AIDS? The examples in other posts seem to be related to male pilots and their indiscretions. Has this ever happened to a female pilot whose husband cannot accept her succeeding beyond him in aviation goals? Any hope for my marriage?
And we only just got married! Any hope for me or is this truly the lot of the professional pilot? I can't go home because Hubby doesn't want me around so I'm homeless living in FBOs and flying a 172 around the country.
I supported him when he was in full-time pilot training -- financially and otherwise, but he apparently didn't like me visiting him in Mesa, AZ because I flew the plane to get there. He eventually quit the program at CAE and came home to gradually return to engineering. Apparently, his rule about "Don't get further ahead of me in ratings or else" was for real. He tolerated me getting my instrument rating after considerable pleading, but once he knew about the commercial check ride, that was it. I hope to return home eventually and resume a life together, but he says absolutely no chance. I chose to go ahead with the commercial check ride, so the marriage is over, according to him. No turning back, he says. I took the ride; I suffer the consequences.
Is this what is meant by AIDS? The examples in other posts seem to be related to male pilots and their indiscretions. Has this ever happened to a female pilot whose husband cannot accept her succeeding beyond him in aviation goals? Any hope for my marriage?
This sounds so insane either you’re trolling, or we’re hearing only one biased side of the story.
Where did you get the money for flight training, are you secretly having an affair with the instructor, etc.
Not accusing you of anything, but when I was younger I’d tell my mother my side of the story, and initially she’d be upset because what I stated sounded like insane unfairness with the way I’d “spin it”. None of it was ever technically untrue, but conveniently I left important factors out of the story. I had good mother, she called me out every time and never allowed me to get away with it. She’s a good mother because the mothers who decide to take their children’s word no matter what are only encouraging narcissistic behavior.
This just sounds so insane to me I question what you’re leaving out.
Last edited by KirillTheThrill; 03-27-2022 at 10:10 PM.
03-29-2022, 05:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Californyia
Is this really a thing? I obtained my commercial pilot license on March 2 and my husband informed me promptly that he is divorcing me as a result. Plain and simple. "You took the check ride, I'm done. See ya."
And we only just got married! Any hope for me or is this truly the lot of the professional pilot? I can't go home because Hubby doesn't want me around so I'm homeless living in FBOs and flying a 172 around the country.
I supported him when he was in full-time pilot training -- financially and otherwise, but he apparently didn't like me visiting him in Mesa, AZ because I flew the plane to get there. He eventually quit the program at CAE and came home to gradually return to engineering. Apparently, his rule about "Don't get further ahead of me in ratings or else" was for real. He tolerated me getting my instrument rating after considerable pleading, but once he knew about the commercial check ride, that was it. I hope to return home eventually and resume a life together, but he says absolutely no chance. I chose to go ahead with the commercial check ride, so the marriage is over, according to him. No turning back, he says. I took the ride; I suffer the consequences.
Is this what is meant by AIDS? The examples in other posts seem to be related to male pilots and their indiscretions. Has this ever happened to a female pilot whose husband cannot accept her succeeding beyond him in aviation goals? Any hope for my marriage?
And we only just got married! Any hope for me or is this truly the lot of the professional pilot? I can't go home because Hubby doesn't want me around so I'm homeless living in FBOs and flying a 172 around the country.
I supported him when he was in full-time pilot training -- financially and otherwise, but he apparently didn't like me visiting him in Mesa, AZ because I flew the plane to get there. He eventually quit the program at CAE and came home to gradually return to engineering. Apparently, his rule about "Don't get further ahead of me in ratings or else" was for real. He tolerated me getting my instrument rating after considerable pleading, but once he knew about the commercial check ride, that was it. I hope to return home eventually and resume a life together, but he says absolutely no chance. I chose to go ahead with the commercial check ride, so the marriage is over, according to him. No turning back, he says. I took the ride; I suffer the consequences.
Is this what is meant by AIDS? The examples in other posts seem to be related to male pilots and their indiscretions. Has this ever happened to a female pilot whose husband cannot accept her succeeding beyond him in aviation goals? Any hope for my marriage?
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