Marrying a pilot...
10-30-2017, 11:11 AM
#41
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Originally Posted by Std Deviation
I recently jumpseated in an AA A321 from LGA to DFW. I sensed something “different” about the crew. About 20 minutes into the flight I asked some bidding / fleet questions. I got a lot of “we” answers. Finally the FO points at the CA and says, “we’re married.”
Fun couple. Great conversation.
Fun couple. Great conversation.
10-30-2017, 02:43 PM
#42
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Originally Posted by jdebrey
I know this is an online forum, not counseling but some advice would be greatly appreciated.
I’m in a relationship with another pilot at the university I’m studying at.
My question is, have you ever seen a marriage between 2 pilots at the airlines? I truly think she is the one, but can’t get over how In the world that would play out. Especially since I would like to have children one day.
I honestly just don’t want to waste 5 years of my life trying to make it work, and ultimately having it end in a divorce.
Let me know your input on this.
Thanks, John
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I’m in a relationship with another pilot at the university I’m studying at.
My question is, have you ever seen a marriage between 2 pilots at the airlines? I truly think she is the one, but can’t get over how In the world that would play out. Especially since I would like to have children one day.
I honestly just don’t want to waste 5 years of my life trying to make it work, and ultimately having it end in a divorce.
Let me know your input on this.
Thanks, John
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10-30-2017, 04:04 PM
#43
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Not everything has to be negotiated, agreed upon and put into writing before a marriage, any marriage. Situations and priorities change. You may not know whom is going to get and stay hired by which carrier, you don't know if someone will have to go out on LTD or get furloughed, you can't plan every single thing out. You just both have to prioritize your marriage and family first.....which might mean that both people delay upgrade, and two fo salaries at a major can go a long way. Or move to base and sit reserve.
After almost 30 years of marriage, I've found that considering, "Is this the hill I want to die on?" theory to be very helpful. There aren't that many issues important enough to make a big deal about, and if the other person has one of those issues that are critical to him or her, let it go their way. If they have to win on every single issue.....you got big problems, pilot or non-flier.
After almost 30 years of marriage, I've found that considering, "Is this the hill I want to die on?" theory to be very helpful. There aren't that many issues important enough to make a big deal about, and if the other person has one of those issues that are critical to him or her, let it go their way. If they have to win on every single issue.....you got big problems, pilot or non-flier.
10-31-2017, 11:09 AM
#44
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It could be worse....you could be considering marriage to a FA. 
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If you havent read Rev. Shannons treatise on the marriage and divorce industry...you might look it up online.
Idk about anyone else but in college i was still a gestating adult. I got married at 28, and even that was probably too young.
.If you havent read Rev. Shannons treatise on the marriage and divorce industry...you might look it up online.
Idk about anyone else but in college i was still a gestating adult. I got married at 28, and even that was probably too young.
10-31-2017, 06:26 PM
#45
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I gotta say there has been some good advice here.
But.....
WHY has no one pointed out that we are talking about two people who haven't even gotten their first job out of college?
The very few pilot couples I knew either worked for the same airline, Or they bid the best they could, saw each other occasionally, and had a strict 'Don't ask, don't tell' rule.
What are the odds two just out of college getting hired by the same regional? After that, what are the odd they will get hired by the same major? And even if they do get to the same airline, what are the chances they will get the same base?
I would never say 'never', but I also don't bet 99 to 1 longshots.
But.....
WHY has no one pointed out that we are talking about two people who haven't even gotten their first job out of college?
The very few pilot couples I knew either worked for the same airline, Or they bid the best they could, saw each other occasionally, and had a strict 'Don't ask, don't tell' rule.
What are the odds two just out of college getting hired by the same regional? After that, what are the odd they will get hired by the same major? And even if they do get to the same airline, what are the chances they will get the same base?
I would never say 'never', but I also don't bet 99 to 1 longshots.
11-05-2017, 10:46 AM
#47
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Originally Posted by RomeoJulietLima
Yes, do it. Because why not, it's not perfect, because I know what exactly. It feels like to have my captain. I did not marry him but I did transfer to alaska for a Md11 Capt, Ups pilot. Yes I would do it again, no regrets. He actually is a great man. We were no perfect. But I will say the minute he walked into our house, I was so excited
Because I could hear him over the radio. I was the nerd to hear him over the Atc.
Sorry but I loved it. Finding him standing in our home with his pilots gear Jesus yeah I wanted him, sorry. It was so cool. Yeah with Jungle. Hmm,, is that illegal, because I do want him
Ps it was my decision.
Because I could hear him over the radio. I was the nerd to hear him over the Atc.
Sorry but I loved it. Finding him standing in our home with his pilots gear Jesus yeah I wanted him, sorry. It was so cool. Yeah with Jungle. Hmm,, is that illegal, because I do want him
Ps it was my decision.
11-05-2017, 11:25 AM
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Originally Posted by RomeoJulietLima
Yes, do it. Because why not, it's not perfect, because I know what exactly. It feels like to have my captain. I did not marry him but I did transfer to alaska for a Md11 Capt, Ups pilot. Yes I would do it again, no regrets. He actually is a great man. We were no perfect. But I will say the minute he walked into our house, I was so excited
Because I could hear him over the radio. I was the nerd to hear him over the Atc.
Sorry but I loved it. Finding him standing in our home with his pilots gear Jesus yeah I wanted him, sorry. It was so cool. Yeah with Jungle. Hmm,, is that illegal, because I do want him
Ps it was my decision.
Because I could hear him over the radio. I was the nerd to hear him over the Atc.
Sorry but I loved it. Finding him standing in our home with his pilots gear Jesus yeah I wanted him, sorry. It was so cool. Yeah with Jungle. Hmm,, is that illegal, because I do want him
Ps it was my decision.
Can you translate this please? Something that is somewhat coherent will work.
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