Divorce Lawyer Northside Atlanta
#41
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She is already using the kids as pawns. I am trying to spend as much time with them as possible and she is not being easy about it.
Lifestyle is going to be a big change. House, vacations and budget etc. I am pretty sure by perusing divorce everything was going to stay the exact same for her just with me gone.
Lifestyle is going to be a big change. House, vacations and budget etc. I am pretty sure by perusing divorce everything was going to stay the exact same for her just with me gone.
#42
Can't abide NAI
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1. Learn the art of radio silence. The lawyers will listen to you and yours complain, whine and set strategy all day long......for 300/hour.....be prepared to spend thousands explaining to your lawyer, who will then try to explain to her lawyer, who will then have to explain to a judge how you are paid. Lawyers make money when people don’t get along. Judges don’t want to have to set a ruling, they want “agreed orders”. “Agreed orders” save everyone money, except the lawyers.
2. Radio silence with the ex also. She most likely won’t ever see your side, or admit to it.
3. Kids see everything, when they are teenagers, they eventually get thru the chaff.
4. Paying “extra” and doing the right thing, doesn’t always pay dividends.....prepare to be disappointed.
5. Ups and downs, can’t unscramble eggs! Do the best you can, be a good dad. That’s the golden ticket....
2. Radio silence with the ex also. She most likely won’t ever see your side, or admit to it.
3. Kids see everything, when they are teenagers, they eventually get thru the chaff.
4. Paying “extra” and doing the right thing, doesn’t always pay dividends.....prepare to be disappointed.
5. Ups and downs, can’t unscramble eggs! Do the best you can, be a good dad. That’s the golden ticket....
#44
75 most of the time
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Joined APC: Apr 2009
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Remember that you are not divorced and you have the same legal rights to your kids as she does. If she prevents you from seeing them tell her you'll be there with a sheriff's deputy to pick up the kids. That changes the attitude going forward. Be polite, but know your rights. Aslo, as many mentioned before, don't fight over little things, make her feel like she is winning, but try to avoid a trial. Mediate if you can, that's a huge win.
#45
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#46
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Radio silence and not fighting over the little things are harder than they sound! I am following the advice but about a million things are bothering me. That’s what my buddies and a lawyer are for. If she keeps playing games with the kids I’ll play hardball with a lawyer, temporary order, and a sheriff if needed. I am hoping she lightens up to mediation. It makes sense and I am not making any demands out of the ordinary.
#47
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The other thing that Divorced Dads forum does is help to tell you when you are the problem. Again, been there, done that. Hard to read that sometimes your having the issue when your friends and such are telling you how right you are. Good to have open eyes as they say. Had my share of questions on there, only to read,” Dude, let it go, not worth it, be better” etc.
#50
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Joined APC: Dec 2009
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Posts: 2,023
Stop. Second wife of 21 years gave me two great kids, her great job and retirement stability. Maybe some of you don’t have too many options, put away the New Balance!
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