There are practical reasons to get married- one is that health insurance can be shared for a non-working or unemployed mate using the marriage certificate. There are many others, this is just one that matters to a lot of people. This is also the main reason why the gay community wants marriage legalized.

 

People who say they'll never get married just from listening/reading to other people's stories are probably doing the world a favor.......

That said, it breaks my heart to hear such horror stories. There are 3 sides to every story, though....his, hers and the truth. If everything said is 100% truth, and there is no reason NOT to believe what's been posted here, then karma has ALOT of catching up do for the offending party. (as I posted earlier, my brother had such a horror story and you really couldn't meet a nicer man. Too nice, if you ask me!)

I've said it before and I'll say it again, some men just never get it. They will ONLY date hot (and sometimes crazy) females....even after being warned not to by friends and family. They end up marrying said females then learn the hard way. I've had numerous (in fact TOO many) male friends/coworkers cry on my shoulder....but I find it hard to offer sympathy when all the signs were there, but were ignored just because she was a HOT piece of you-know-what.

 

Hot Crazy Matrix - A Man's Guide to Women - YouTube

 

You mention in other posts that she is not a US citizen. Did she have legal status in the US before you married or was it granted as a result of the marriage?

 

Nope. He was a "protected class" and therefore immune to criticism. Was told by Commodore he was done. His career continued. Mine was derailed by the arrest, and subsequent fallout.

If you are accused of a crime against a woman, you are GUIILTY until proven innocent, and then you still will pay the price because, lets face it, the view of a lot of holier than thou types are you MUST have been doing SOMETHING to even be accused.

 

Sad yet true in MANY cases.

A buddy of mine got into an argument with his now ex wife. She went crazy ballistic, started attacking him. Slapped him, scratched him up, tore his shirt. He retreated to the bathroom and locked the door. Lucky for him, his phone was in his pocket and he took pictures of himself and scratch marks.

Meanwhile, she runs to the neighbors, said he "hit her", and called the police with a domestic violence claim. He DIDNT touch her, he's got a torn shirt and scratch marks.

Cops show up, cuff him, throw him in the back of the car RIGHT WAY, telling him how he screwed up, is going to have domestic violence charges filed, etc. And like your case, he has A LOT to lose if she gets her way.

Wasn't till the cops interviewed HER, and the neighbors. Her story changed between cop 1 and cop 2, combined with the what the neighbors said. They FINALLY put 2 and 2 together and realized what DIDN'T happen.

But it was a long hour he sat in the back of the cop car, cuffed, sweating it out with the police assuming he was guilty from the time they showed up.

She was the violent agressor, that CLEARLY attacked him physically. Yet NOTHING happened to her.

 

Also good info.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PQIX...eature=related

 

Awww, Clarence, did you already forget what I told you the last time you were banned?

Why don't you spend your excessive free time learning to fly properly instead of duking it up with the fine folks here? Or work on those busted checkrides/status rides. Take out the Whiz Wheel and practice on the damn thing. Go to your local airport and do a little planespotting.

 

Understand. I didn't have to deal with arrest or the losses inflicted upon you.

I was in the ARNG and at a resident course for three months in the early 1990s. She was also in the ARNG and was doing the XO. He later became the battalion commander while she resigned. They married less than a year after the divorce was finalized. By that time I departed for another state because the previous state wasn't big enough for the three of us. Because all three of us were ARNG, the UCMJ offered no relief unless one of us was on active duty. Besides, neither of them was worth the effort. She's now working on husband #5.

Iron Maiden,

Someone said some investigation of cell phone records and transactions were in order and they are right. If you haven't already done so, get a checking account in your name only and change your direct deposit to that account ASAP. I did that and it saved me thousands of dollars. That put me in a position to dictate some terms to her instead of her telling me everything that was going to be done. It also put me in a position to hire a very good attorney.

You also mentioned she's Catholic. It's not unfair for you to remind her of your vows..."for richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sickness and in health until we are parted by death." It seems both of you took these vows. That's a promise both of you made to God and to each other.

Good luck!

 

Sorry to hear about that Iron Maiden. I've been divorced now going on 10 yrs. Sometimes people grow apart; goals and aspirations change; or they just lose the excitement and intimacy that initially drew them together.

I would suggest having another heart-to-heart with her. Listen to that quiet inner voice. Just b/c she says that you're short-fused means nothing in the sense b/c that is only one person's view of you. Maybe there was something or other relational issues that caused you to lose your temper. Address your feelings and emotions honestly; make a decision; then move on! Time has a way of healing all wounds.


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