Any recommendations for a good divorce lawyer on the northside?
just when I thought 2020 couldn’t get worse and with only a couple of days to go!
Thanks

Hang in there pal. If you actually end up divorced, learn from your mistake and do not get married again.

Hope you guys can work it out. 2020 has been a real marriage test.

No kidding. Being gone half the month, like in normal times, really allowed one to miss their significant other. And vice versa

THANK YOU.

Previous hairline fractures have grown into major fault lines heretofore papered over by high salaries, frequent away trips from home (pressure valve), and and overall professional uncertainty have been exposed for more than one pilot.

ppping, you ain't alone.

Check out love and respect conference. Do yourself a favor, give it a try. It works, I know.

I can check with a friend and PM you, but having seen some friends go through this process; there is no "good" outcome. A contested divorce only makes the attorneys rich. Folks I know have spent $100,000 to $125,000 on legal expenses fighting over roughly $1m in assets.

The adage that it is "cheaper to keep her" is certainly true.

What worked for me:

(1) Try a reset. Went off on a trip and had FUN. Made an effort to not talk about what ****ed me off & found a way to be friends again. Hawaii (get a COVID test & good to go) is an idea. 2020 has had little opportunity to enjoy life. A reset might work.

(2) If really divorcing, then see if there is any way to work the deal out amongst one another. Think of a pre-nup agreement and just execute it as a post-nup. When I thought I was getting a divorce (8 years ago) we sat down with a family attorney and worked out the deal.

If you make it to the other side (working things out) then you hopefully will have some tools that work to fix the relationship. Been married for 15 years and still getting better at it.

Wish you the very best. Know this is a tough time.

Between Delta and the Navy Reservers I was gone ALOT. Covid hits and home for 4 months and every fault that was hidden in the marriage now had a spotlight on it.

Would really like to try a reset but I don’t know if it’s feasible at this point. I would much rather mediate a divorce. I am not looking to screw her or the kids and create an even more toxic relationship post divorce. I only want what’s best for the kids and stability for all.

Fellow military turncoat Delta guy. The military was rough on my marriage. Super rough. Special Ops likes to deploy. It didn’t help my wife was also in and deploying like crazy as well. 5 years at one base we saw each other 10 months. So yeah, I get being gone. We were divorcing amicably with a shared attorney and promised to never use the kids as leverage. Things were ugly but we never threatened the kids against each other. Don’t let this happen.

I hated that woman for a period and couldn’t understand her side. Lots of hanging up on each other (it didn’t help we were doing this while one of us was always deployed). She then came home and said we would give it another chance. I had had enough and volunteered to deploy early to get away. That was a shot across the bow I guess signaling I was truly done because I thought she was truly done. Then I came back, needed to be picked up at the airport so she came. Stupid as this sounds but we started being nice and had one last date night to celebrate our divorce moving forward nicely followed by consensual fun. After letting our guards down i guess we just decided to slowly begin trusting, forgiving, and enjoying each other again. We listened and got things off our chest and things weirdly snapped quickly in the other direction. That attorney still has our divorce money and the paperwork never got filed. Worth it. This long diatribe is just letting you know that others have been there and survived even when it seemed like it was a done deal towards divorce. I’ve been married 16 years now and it’s been 10 since that event. Our marriage did great during COVID because I think we dealt with what you are dealing with and luckily learned how to cope with each other. Don’t be too proud to listen and hopefully she can reciprocate. Good luck man, I empathize big time.